Happy International Women’s day to all you fabulous women who continue to break barriers and show the world that we are just as- and in many cases- even more capable than our male counterparts. I watched Hidden Figures this past weekend, and this notion I speak of, could not have been more prominent. These women continued to display excellence amidst a cohort of men who thought them to be inferior; however, through their intelligence and hard work, they were able to combat the stereotypes formed against them, and shine bright like a diamond!As women, we perform our own jobs during the day, and come home to take on other roles such as: homemaker, mother, and wife. Our job is never truly done. Something I’ve witnessed my mom do continuously growing up. I could never understand how she did it all; she was literally superwoman in my eyes. It brings me back to Zora Neale Hurston’s famous quote, “Black women are the mules of the world”. We are coming off the heels of black history month, and as I reflect on what it is to be a woman, I also have to acknowledge what it means to be a black woman! Being a woman in and of itself has many layers, so add to that being a black woman. I imagine that Hurston was responding to the roles that women had to face during slavery; they had to cook, clean, nurse their child, nurse the master’s child, all while tending to their mate, leaving themselves for last. So, figuritively speaking, women are mules to men due to social hierarchy, now where does that leave the black woman who is below both white men and women? We’re forced to overcompensate in fear of being looked over or misjudged in working environments where we find ourselves the minority, we often times have to defend our position, we’re scrutinized more than our white female and male counterparts. I mean, it truly can be a mentally exhausting rat race that we continuously have to run. But one thing for sure, is that there is no other that is as resilient as us, we have overcome the world through our persistent fight, and for that we should be proud.
I myself, am a bi-product of immigrants, my mom having come to this country at the age of 18, left her family behind, with just the clothes on her back, and not a lick of English. Today I watch in awe as I see her flourish in so many ways. My mom is the one who taught me how to write perfect English better than any teacher I have ever encountered (a language she was not native to); I still go to her to proof important documents. Because of this, English and Language Arts have always been my strong suit. I’ve watched her work get published, complete a BA and Master’s degree with straight A’s, all while taking care of three children and a husband. She would come home, cook, then head to sleep so she could wake up in the wee hours of the morning before work, to complete her school work. Bearing witness to all this has instilled key values that can never be erased; many are embedded in me. For this reason, I hold myself to extremely high standards because if an immigrant who came here with absolutely nothing, can amount to what I’ve witnessed, then I have absolutely ZERO excuse, none of us do!
So, in honor of International Women’s Day, I dedicate this post to my mama who has a birthday this month, which also happens to be Women’s history month (God sure knew what he was doing, didn’t he?!) There are few that can impress me more than the woman who bore me. I’ve watched her overcome through hard work and excellence over and over again, her relentless drive is unmatched. Cheers to the superwoman I get to call mother!
May you all be blessed beyond measure and know that the very stigmas that are against us, are the reasons why we have all risen to such high esteem. So, be proud of yourself and don’t let a soul take that away from you!!
Coat- Make Me Chic (purchased over a year ago)
Top& Pants- H&M
Shoes- Zara (old)
Glasses- Tom Ford (sold out)